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开学了

你是否控制不住对孩子发脾气？

School started

Do you lose your temper with your child?

从此刻起：

我要多鼓励、赞美孩子，

而不是批评、指责、埋怨孩子。

因为我知道只有鼓励和赞美

才能带给孩子自信和力量，

批评、指责、埋怨只是在发泄，

我的情绪，伤害孩子的心灵；　

From this moment:

I want to encourage and praise children more,Instead of criticizing, accusing and blaming children.Because I know only encouragement and praise can give children confidence and strength,Criticism, blame, blame is just venting,My emotions hurt children’s hearts;

从此刻起：我要用行动去影响孩子，而不是用言语去说教孩子。因为我知道孩子的行为不是被教导而成，而是被影响和模仿而成；

From this moment: I want to use actions to influence children,Instead of preaching to children with words. Because I know that children’s behavior is not taught, But is influenced and imitated;

从此刻起：我要多聆听孩子的心声，而不是急于评断孩子。因为我知道聆听才是最好的沟通。

From this moment:I want to listen to my children more,Instead of rushing to judge children. Because I know listening is the best communication.

从此刻起：我要无条件的去爱孩子本来的样子，而不是去爱我要求的样子；因为我知道那是我的自私和自我；

From this moment: I want to love my child unconditionally, Instead of loving the way I ask; Because I know it’s my selfishness and ego;

从此刻起：我要学会蹲下来与孩子平等沟通，而不是居高临下的指使孩子。因为我知道强制打压只会带来孩子更强烈的叛逆和反抗；

From now on: I will learn to squat down and communicate with children on an equal footing, instead of commanding children from a high position. Because I know that coercive suppression will only bring stronger rebellion and resistance to children;

从此刻起：我要用心去陪伴孩子，而不是心不在焉的敷衍孩子。因为我知道只有真正的陪伴才能让孩子感受到爱的温暖；From now on: I want to accompany the child with my heart, not absent-minded perfunctory children. Because I know that only true companionship can make children feel the warmth of love;

从此刻起：我要控制自己的情绪，和孩子一起安静和平地处理好每一个当下。因为我知道脾气和暴力只代表我的无能和对孩子的伤害；

From now on: I will control my emotions and deal with every moment quietly and peacefully with my children. Because I know that temper and violence only represent my incompetence and harm to children;

从此刻起：我要积极主动地处理好与爱人的关系，创造一个和谐的家庭环境，绝不让夫妻矛盾影响和伤害到孩子，因为我知道只有夫妻关系和睦才是对孩子最大的爱；

From now on: I will take the initiative to deal with the relationship with my lover, create a harmonious family environment, and never let conflicts between husband and wife affect and hurt children, because I know that only a harmonious relationship between husband and wife is the greatest love for children;

从此刻起：我要让孩子长成他要长成的样子，而不是我期待的样子。因为我知道孩子并不属于我，他只是经由我来到这个世界，去完成他自己的梦想和使命；

From now on: I will let the child grow up to be what he wants to be, not what I expect. Because I know that the child does not belong to me, he just came to this world through me to fulfill his own dreams and missions;

从此刻起：我要多为孩子种善因，行善事。因为我知道种善因，方能结善果，积善之家必有余庆，积恶之家必有余秧；

From now on: I will plant more good causes for my children and do good deeds. Because I know that planting good causes can produce good results. There must be Yu Qing in the house of accumulating good, and there must be more seedlings in the house of accumulating evil;

从此刻起：我要通过孩子的问题，找出我自己的问题，修正我自己，因为我知道孩子所有的问题都是我的问题，我是一切的根源；

From now on: I will find out my own problems and correct myself through the children’s problems, because I know that all the children’s problems are my problems and I am the root of everything;

从此刻起：我要成为孩子生命中最好的朋友，最亲密的伙伴，最慈爱的爸爸（妈妈）！

From now on: I want to be the best friend, the closest partner and the most loving father (mother) in the child’s life!

这12条父母规，我们做父母的基本都耳熟能详。但在开学的日子，我们觉得老生常谈还是十分有必要的。

These 12 parental rules are familiar to all of us as parents. But on the day of school, we think it is very necessary to make a platitude.

这12条写给我们自己的规矩，我们都看到厌烦，但生活中，能真正做到这十二条的，又有多少父母？我们承认自己做不到，那为什么要发呢？因为我们都是爱孩子的，我们期待自己成为孩子心目中更完美的爸爸妈妈。

These 12 rules are written to us, we all see boredom, but in life, how many parents can really do these 12 rules? We admit that we can’t do it, so why send it? Because we all love our children, and we expect ourselves to be the more perfect parents in their minds.
尽管我们偶尔还是会控制不住脾气，尽管我们偶尔还是会责备孩子，尽管我们偶尔对孩子期待值还是会过高……但我们想要成为更好的自己，成为更好的父母。

Although we occasionally still can’t control our temper, although we occasionally blame our children, and although we occasionally expect too much from our children……But we want to be better ourselves and better parents.